10 Ways to Love Your Wife
1. Always find time to work on your marriage. The hardest and most rewarding job you will ever have is your marriage….if you work on it. Great marriages don’t occur on autopilot, they take time and effort. Speaking of effort….
2. Never stop dating your wife. You initially won her heart by actively pursuing her. You showed her that she was worth the pursuit by giving her your time and attention. When you pursue her…
3. Focus on the positive, on what you love about her. If you focus on her shortcomings, you will eventually only see her failures. What you focus on is what you will see in her. The more you focus on her positive qualities the more you learn to…
4. Accept your wife as she is and you don’t try to change her. You didn’t fall in love with “what could be” you fell in love with who you have. Appreciate and love her for who she is. Part of acceptance is to…
5. Never criticize or express contempt towards your wife. Attacking her character or sense of self-worth will only serve to drive her away. Spend time encouraging her. Encouragement creates a sense of security. Speaking about this…
6. Create and foster an environment that expresses security for her. Make room for her thoughts and emotions, even those that you may not be comfortable with. One of the ways her security is destroyed is through your defensiveness. Your defensiveness gives your wife the impression that you are more interested in you protecting yourself than in understanding where she is coming from. While we are on the topic of understanding…
7. Listen to her to understand, not to find flaw in her words or to mount a defense. Listening to understand will give you insight into your wife’s heart. Part of knowing her heart is to…
8. Know her love language. Just because you think you are loving your wife it doesn’t mean she is receiving it as love. If she cherishes quality time but you are “loving” her through your acts of service, you miss the mark. If you miss the mark and get defensive, be sure to…
9. Ask for and give forgiveness…on a regular basis. You will fail your wife and need her forgiveness- at the same time don’t stockpile an arsenal of her wrongs. Always forgive her, whether she ask for forgiveness or not. Finally….
10. Love is patient, kind, and understanding. Love is not self-serving. Love is about laying aside your wants and desires for hers. Which allows her to feel secure enough to freely give her love to you.